I am so FRUSTRATED!!!!!!! UGH... Love stinks! I went through a bad break up almost an yr ago. I mean it actually broke me down. Luckily after the storm you always find something or someone finds you. That something or someone always build you back up and help’s you take notice that you are better then whatever you are going through...Well at least that's what happened to me. What I don’t understand is WHY IS IT SO HARD TO LET GO? I know love is happiness but it’s sadness too! When the bad out ways the good and we know it, WHY HAVENT WE LEFT YET? WHAT IS HOLDING US BACK? I’m not just referring to women I’m talking about men as well.
I can give you a whole entire list of reason I stayed in an abusive relationship for 2yrs. It wasn’t always like that. Its just so easy to forgive and to keep pushing forward because of the love that you have for that person you are afraid to lose it. After so long the relationship consumes you. It became all that I knew. I mean my ex became apart of my everyday life. When a relationship starts to fall apart it can be very stressful. I took a lot of crap because I was so wrapped up on being in love. After the rough breakup I learned that you should NEVER settle for anything less than your worth.
I saw on face book this guy’s status said something about women need to stop going out of our way to prove to a man your worth, because Mr. Right will already know your self worth!!!! I LOVE IT, LOVE IT, AND LOVE IT. That is extremely true. I just wish women would know that in their heart and just believe it. I know we try but love has some of us wrapped around its little finger.
I have these two great friends jasmine and Taylor. They are the greatest set of friends anyone could ask for. I mean they are gorgeous, smart, ambitious, I mean the list could go on and on. They are the complete definition of an independent woman! I love them to death BUT they are sad victims to this thing called love & a bad relationship. You know what I would like to know? WHY IS IT THAT THINGS ARE EASIER SAID THEN DONE? I swear people can give you some of the best advice but couldn’t follow a lick of it themselves.
Jasmine she has been in this relationship with this guy for maybe a year now. It’s been a lot of on and off again, I love you, I hate you, going on with them. I never really say too much because I support my friends strongly with whatever decision that they make. I just cant stand to see her go through the these things with this guy. She has always been a strong individual. The girl practically kept me sane the last 6mths of my relationship. I swear to the mighty heavens I almost snapped a few times but that’s another story. I’m not really aware of the problems they have but I know INSECURTIY has a major role somewhere.
WHAT MAKES A GUY SO INSECURE? Now I’m not saying that women aren’t insecure because lord knows some of us are just as bad or even worse then the guys. My biggest concern is how love is painful but it shouldn’t kill you! It pains my little heart to see him break her the way that he does. My guess is that love is just as powerful as denial. They are hand and hand I guess.
My friend Taylor on the other hand she deals with the lies and the cheating, other women etc. its just a terrible thing to watch over and over again. I mean both of them deal with ass-holes for a boyfriend but I know my girls. I truly believe they are still with these guys for two main reasons.1: they are madly in love with them and 2: they feel something in their hearts that’s telling them that they can change these men. I strongly believe you can’t change anyone who isn’t willing to change him or herself.
Do I believe they have potential to change these men? YES!!! Nothing is impossible! I love them I just want them to wake up and see what I see. Everyone has a breaking point. WHAT IS YOUR BREAKING POINT? HOW DO YOU KNOW THAT THIS IS IT? In a relationship it should always be 50/50 no matter what. When dealing with cheaters, insecurities, or whatever situation you have at hand, WE as in everyone shouldn’t be so quick to forgive. We should give them time to learn from the mistake. I’m the type of person who believes strongly in second chances. I think that we are so weak or afraid to be alone. So afraid to lose what we’re use to that we just jump back in there. We just quickly forgive and just try to keep pushing forward. Now I’m nowhere near or would ever call myself a love expert. I just know what I have seen and been through enough shit to know that the key to a happy successful relationship comes from the hearts of both people. So no matter what people say I say keep holding on until you are 1000% certain that you have nothing else to hold on too. Most of the time the relationship is over before you come to finally realize its over.
So tell me what you think! What are a few of your views, comments, experiences, or thoughts about love? Until next time bloggers
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